As a culture and society Indians specially but also people in general choose not to really talk about the negatives in any aspect of their life. It is looked down upon if you talk of how your marriage isn’t working. it is frowned upon if you talk about how on some days you wished you hadn’t had kids. If you’re undergoing treatment for depression you’d rather not talk of it for fear of people thinking there’s something wrong with you. The irony is, in a society fuelled with success stories of seeming heroes the norm isn’t people who have no frailties, no pains, no frustrations, no anguish, no angst but those who are in fact inflicted with serious doses of pain and who see and face some humongous amounts of negativity everyday. So then why not talk about it? Why as a society are we so conditioned to only talk of our successes? If a successful author is actually having to forgo all his earnings to make his book succeed and isn’t earning a rupee from his book he’d just never talk of it, a successful actor will never talk of the times he was shit scared and shivering on the day of the release of his film. Everyone wants to come aross as this ‘built of steel and happiness’ individual from some disney adventure, when actually society is full of sadness and the pain of failure. If as a society and individuals we began to talk of our frustrations for example as a parent, it would just make people think a lot more before they took the step, leading to more sensible parents, or married couples who’ve thought things true and have already been exposed vicariously to the banes of marriage. It also sets up much more realistic expectations from life in the first place. If your friends talk to you about the days when they wish they hadn’t married and then also of the days they feel so good to be married it would set up more realistic expectations in your mind about what to expect. This applies to MBA schools, becoming a parent, becoming an artist (Where your GURU gives you AN ABSOLUTELY REALISTIC picture of the probable future) and any walk of life. Do we really need the sugarcoating and the shoving under the carpet of all negativity? Research shows that depression is one of the fastest growing banes of modern day living. Then why is it that our newspapers, magazines, tv channels hardly ever carry articles, shows about this topic? Why is it that when someone suggests therapy to you you look down upon yourself? its probably because as a society we’ve looked down on all negativity. Accepting the downers with the uppers is the only way to a REAL life and REAL happiness instead of this candy floss Mill and Boons kinda of utopian existence we all seem to be propogating. So the next time you feel a negative emotion express it. See how it works.